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Sunday, June 10, 2012

My wife, Renae De Liz, is going to be okay, but she is in the hospital. :(


Hi, everyone-

Been avoiding saying anything publicly because I didn't want to cause worry prematurely and wanted to make sure I had more information and talked to our immediate family first.

Renae is recovering right now, just very slowly.
Our medical bills are around $75,000 (no insurance).

She has an infection that has spread into her blood and kidneys, as well as pneumonia and some other things we're worried about, but I don't want to say anything there until test results are back. As of today she's doing a bit better and we're told after perhaps a week in the Critical Care Unit she should be mostly recovered. It got really bad and we almost lost her. :( Been a very rough couple of weeks. We're behind in work, income, communication, and our nerves are just shot from all this. (I can't even think about the likely $30k or more in medical bills we're racking up here with no health insurance and we don't qualify for assistance...)

So, please understand that we're unable to get back to everyone checking in on current or future projects, Womanthology copies, or anything else right now. Please give us 2-3 weeks. I'll do my best during that time, but can't promise to get back to everyone. Renae will likely be in CCU for a week or more, not sure how long she'll be in a recovery room after that. My focus is taking care of her and the kids during this (which I can't do at the same time because Critical Care doesn't allow kids).

I just can't keep up on all these messages right now, but I'll do my best. If you could help by spreading the word so no one out there is getting frustrated by not hearing back from us sooner that would be amazing. Particularly on Womanthology. If you happen to see someone asking about it, please direct them here and to the updates on the Womanthology Kickstarter Updates page, which should answer all questions. Books and other rewards are in process as quickly as we can get them out. Most of them are done! But we're sorry for any delay this might cause, if any. It's mostly out of our hands at this point and just about everything is already on its way to the backers.

So aside from a few pre-scheduled tweets and blogs to keep things running I'll be away from the computer most of the time for right now.

Huge thank you to Stacie Ponder (check out her movies and comics!) for helping with the kids while I visit Renae and to Renae's sister Kimberly De Liz (check out her art!) for offering to fly all the way over here to Maine to help with the kids.

And to everyone who already knows and has offered their support and love and everyone who surely will. Thank you.

Get Well Cards!

Oh, and if anyone wanted to send Get Well cards, flowers, chocolate, or anything like that to Renae that would be so sweet!



(Keep in mind that is the Critical Care Unit so nothing too elaborate,
but once she's in her recovery room you could send real elephants and stuff).
That would make her feel really loved and special (which she is!)

~Ray




Are We Taking Donations?

Wow! I'm overwhelmed the amazing support, love, and offers for donations. We've even gotten a few already! Wow! Thank you! Generous people!!!!!

The answer is:

Kinda?

Part of me (the scared part) wants to say, "Yes, please help!" But ... some of you might remember a few years back, when we lived in Kansas, and we were about to have a baby and things with the home we were trying to buy (and had been living in for a year) fell through and we had to move in 30 days and didn't know what we were going to do. Back then we asked for donations and took on a ton of commissions and new projects to try to raise the money to save the house. Despite all of our efforts (and yours) it still didn't work out, but we moved to Maine and life is incredible here and we're actually glad now that we didn't stick our roots down there, even if we loved the house.

Everyone was SO generous and helpful, and in fact we still owe some commissions from back then (moving across country and having a baby who didn't sleep for his first 2 years is like jumping in a time warp). So I know we totally don't want to be the people who are like "We need help AGAIN!" You know? And this is something that we can probably work out. We might be paying these medical bills forever, but it's not the same as needing to raise a certain amount by a certain time to save a house or to have a major operation to save a life or anything like that. It's just going to be some really, really bad debt that we were really hoping never to have. Taking a huge bite out of our future plans and the getting ahead of debt that we've been hoping to do forever, that's for sure. BUT, right now we don't have any dire need and there are a lot of people out there who probably do.

Also I can't ask Renae our thoughts on this yet. She'd probably think you're all amazing for wanting to but not want to bother anyone for the help. That's just who she is.

SO, with that in mind (the fact that we've gotten an amazing amount of help before and this isn't an urgent and dire need ... at least not yet ... knock on wood) if you still want to help and totally have it to spare (if you've got your own financial worries, please take care of you and yours first) then you can donate by clicking this button:






But please read the above information before you do that. We'll probably be fine without donations, but of course they would help! But there are people who need it more, too. 

You're all just super incredible people for being so sweet and supportive and wanting to help so much.

THANK YOU!!

~Ray

39 comments:

  1. She is in my prayers ray. I hope all is well. Good job staying calm, taking care.of the kids and your wife all at once. We need more dads like that.

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  2. Hugs and healing thoughts to all of you.

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  3. I'll wish for a speedy recovery!

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  4. Hope everything's OK. You guys deserve better than this. Thoughts are with you, please pass on my best wishes.

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  5. Niteowl9 (Adele)6:40 AM

    I am so sad to hear about Renae. I will keep you all in my prayers. Since you asked to spread this information, I posted the link to this blog on Scoundrel.

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  6. All my best wishes to you!!! A big hug from Italy!

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  7. May you both pull out of this with ease, a greater couple there never was. Bless.

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  8. Ray....hugs and prayers for you all...hang in there and trust in God. You are an amazing dad and husband and your wife an amazing mom and wife. You are doing the right things as you always have.....you will get through this too. God bless all of you!!! Wish I were there to help ease your burdens and give you hugs in person. Love you! -Angel n TC

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  9. Best to you both, glad to hear she is getting better

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  10. I wish Renae a speedy & healthy recovery and I wish the best for you and your family. Take care of each other and know that we are all keeping you in our thoughts and prayers!

    Corey

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  11. I'm so sorry to hear this. I (and everyone else at Hub Comics!) wishes Renae a speedy recovery.

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  12. She is in my thoughts and prayers. I went trough something very similar 2 years ago so I understand exactly how scary this is and how ill she must be at this time.

    Again, you have all of my best wishes.

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  13. I hope she has a speedy recovery! I can't put into words how much I respect Renae, and my copy of Womanthology is displayed on my coffee table for all to see.

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  14. So sorry to hear about this. I'm glad she is doing better. I will pray for her speedy recovery. Love and hugs to all of you.

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  15. Renae, your are in my thoughts and prayers ... both of you are generous, kind, warm and good people that shouldn't have to go thru the hassle of the bills to make things better... if I had a dollar to spare it would be yours... I hope Renae that you feel better soon and Ray.. your a good husband to keep us all in the loop... God Bless you both best wishes and Much Love.
    NEIL

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  16. Maya K12:29 PM

    I am so sorry to read this. My thoughts and best wishes for a very speedy recovery.

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  17. Anonymous1:30 PM

    She is in my thoughts and prayers. I hope she makes a full and speedy recovery.

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  18. Really sorry to hear this, hope she has a very speedy recovery!

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  19. Poor thing, I hope she gets well very quickly. Good luck keeping up with everything. I can only imagine how tough it is to deal with all of this and have to care for your kids too.

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  20. Speedy recovery to Renae and hugs to you all.

    Sending healing thoughts and good wishes.

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  21. Thoughts and prayer with you and your family.

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  22. Oh my. I really wish she gets better very soon! All the best wishes for you all, all the way from Brazil. :)

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  23. Anonymous8:26 PM

    Move to Oz where healthcare costs next to nothing!! all the best

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  24. Ray
    My thoughts are with you all. I've donated but if I can do ANYTHING please don't hesitate to get in touch.
    Best,
    Kelly Thompson

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  25. Hope she get well soon.

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  26. Anonymous8:04 AM

    Sending well wishes and hopes for a speedy and complete recovery.
    ~kreates

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  27. Ray, my thoughts and prayers to you and your family. You and I don't know each other but I hate to see a fellow mainer in need. I live right up the road from Mercy on Spring St, and if for whatever reason you need someone close by to run an errand or whatever, please feel free to contact me through my google account. Anyways, best of luck to you all, and keep your head high, it'll all be fine!

    ~Ned Donovan

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  28. Edward Himel4:46 PM

    I meet her at Heroescon and she was a joy to talk to. Her contributions for women in comics can not be overlooked. Please get better.

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  29. Oh man, glad that she's recovering right now. I hope that she'll be making an easy and quick recovery.

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  30. I'm so sorry to hear this! I hope she makes a quick recovery.

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  31. Renae, you, and your family are in my prayers, Ray! I hope she recovers soon! Why do bad things happen to good people? Renae and you have been very inspiring to me and I hope for the very best for you both.

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  32. Renae, you and your family are my prayers. Get well soon

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  33. Get well soon, Renae! And the two of you let me know if there's anything I can do to help out.

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  34. Devin Grayson2:07 PM

    Ray --

    Sending love and strength from my family to yours. Renae is a fighter, she'll pull through--I'm just so sorry you guys have to go through all of this. Give the boys lots of extra love and remember that pretty much every single female in the world of comics--not to mention easily half the males--consider Renae a personal hero; please don't hesitate to mobilize your wife's army if there's anything we can do!

    Feel better, sweet Renae, and don't worry about anything except getting your strength back! <3

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  35. Love and best wishes to renae, ray, AND baby, i will be sending a present soon! -xoxo buffy

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  36. Sorry to hear about Renae hope she gets well soon thought Womanthology was a great idea and I offered my support to that and to her speedy recovery I will be post this on my blog hope that helps.

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  37. Peter B. Gillis12:02 PM

    Ray, I hope she makes a complete recovery. My thoughts are with both of you--and yours,

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  38. Anonymous6:50 PM

    Wishing Renae a speedy recovery!! She's a hero to everyone, up online-myself, included!!! I hope to work on Womanthology, shortly, as a comicbook writer.-ealperin

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